Keeping the Spark Alive in Relationships

Life goes on but we often take the most important thing in our life for granted – our significant other.

We forget to create special moments, don’t feel butterflies in our stomach anymore, and believe our relationship has reached a stagnant point.

Going from a passionate to a compassionate relationship can also begin to feel boring. Even resentment can creep in.

Whether you are in a long-term relationship or a long-distance one, it’s important to keep the attraction alive for years and make your love last.

Here are 6 tips to deepen the bond with your partner and lead a fulfilling life. Follow them religiously and don’t let the passion dwindle! 

1. Be adventurous

The first tip is to get out of your comfort zone and take risks to keep things riveting. Go beyond the events of the day and build new experiences together.

Try a partner activity doing something you both enjoy – go skydiving in a new city or try the exotic cuisine you’ve always wanted to get your hands on. 

Be spontaneous – run a marathon together or take a vacation to spend quality time together.  The key is to keep adventuring and experimenting to keep the relationship alive and buzzing!

Keeping the spark alive in relationships

2. Communicate emotions

Talking isn’t just about having a chat for a few minutes. And sometimes a mere ‘I love you’ doesn’t even cut it.

Make an effort to get to know each other on a deeper level. Communicate everything from your feelings and emotions to your past secrets and future plans. 

A successful relationship is all about staying put with each other in the good and the bad times. So, constructively discuss your issues and work through them together.

If something about your partner is bothering you, be honest and tell them. They won’t know if you don’t talk to them about it. However, at the same time, it is also important to respect each other’s needs and feelings.

3. Try to impress each other

Remember how you both would bring out your newest clothes and put on your best red lipstick when you fell in love in the beginning? Start trying to impress each other again! Wear a scent that you know your partner is attracted to and wear the colour they like seeing on you.

Be each other’s #1 fan!

It is also important to know your partner’s love language. Do they like being showered with gifts or are they into spending intimate time together? Discover what your partner wants and prioritise that.

Your partner will feel seen and loved – they will feel desired and will come back for more time and time again. 

4. Don’t skip date night – even after years of a relationship

In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to just skip the date night to make room for other stuff on your busy calendar. But some alone time with your partner every now and then is very important to keep the relationship healthy, especially if you have children.

Set aside one day of the week for your dinner date and stick to it, no matter what issue arises.

Plan for it each week and pick a new location every time to keep things interesting. You could even plan a surprise date for your partner to spice it up a bit!

5. Initiate intimacy

In addition to making your partner feel seen and heard, you also need to focus on making them feel desired. Remind your partner that you are still just as attracted and charmed by them as you were in the beginning. Don’t underestimate the importance of initiating intimacy.

Physical affection and intimacy, whether it is emotional or sexual, make up a huge part of a relationship. So, don’t let issues such as unresolved anger or fear of rejection affect how intimate you are with your partner. Show them how much you love and adore them – after all, it’s the small moments that count!

Actions speak louder than words.

6. Remember that change starts with yourself

You may not feel the same love rush as you did when you met your partner for the first time, but it’s important to keep the spark alive and carefully reignite it whenever it starts to die down. 

Unsure on how to make the first move? Write a timeless love letter to them. There is nothing more romantic than receiving a hand-crafted letter about all the things that your partner fell in love with. A letter is an incredibly beautiful way of expressing your feelings and showing gratitude.

It’s all about putting effort into the things that you care about. Go from wanting something, to doing it.

Pursue your partner and invest in your relationship – it’s a bond that should last you a lifetime! 

If you feel that you need some extra help to communicate and a space focus on your relationship, relationship counselling may help. Spending time talking to a professional relationship counsellor with your partner, can help you to make a plan together.

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